The Rules

Code of Conduct

The Kinky Salon Code of Conduct was developed to state our intention and our standards. We created it so that it would be super easy for newbies to understand how to behave at our events. Follow these simple do’s and don’ts and you’ll fit right in.

If you’ve got a handle on the Code of Conduct go and read “How To Be A Playroom Sweetheart“. It’s an essential guide to playroom etiquette that expands on the Code of Conduct to show you how to get it on with good grace! If you have questions about what you find here, please check the FAQ.

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  • Be creative about how you dress
  • Contribute when and where you can
  • Negotiate your boundaries
  • Play safely and consensually
  • Have sensible safer sex practices
  • Respect our space and each other
  • Clean up after yourself
  • Abide by our online code of conduct


      • Assume!
      • Enter the playroom solo or linger alone in there
      • Cruise aggressively (even if they are really cute)
      • Get too intoxicated
      • Take photographs
      • Gossip about what goes on here



Be creative about how you dress

Dressing-up in a ridiculous costume is mandatory at Kinky Salon London. It helps create an atmosphere where everyone feels equally silly (and here is a handy guide on doing so in an inoffensive fashion)! Every party has a theme and we provide a list of dressing-up inspirations: the dressed-up partygoers become an essential part of the otherworldly atmosphere at each event. But it’s not about having the most fabulous, over-the-top outfit, nor is it about spending lots of money on expensive threads. A bit of imagination and a sense of humour cost nothing. If you feel more comfortable with just one or two accessories from a fancy dress shop then that’s fine  - but please never come in standard street wear. Our door team will be checking that you have brought your costume.

Contribute when and where you can

The Kinky Salon community is created through the efforts of everyone involved. All guests who come to our parties are invited to contribute to the sense of fun in whichever way suits them. Some bring gifts to hand out to others, some invent crazy party games that everyone can join in with, some bring hula-hoops or other toys to perform with after the cabaret... we welcome all talent and creativity (as long as it's safe and consensual!)  If you want to volunteer at an event it’s easy- just sign up on the website. If you want to perform or have a creative offering, we would love to hear from you

Negotiate your boundaries

Speak up! If someone makes you uncomfortable, for ANY reason, then you should let them know. That includes touching without asking, saying something that offends you, or even just looking at you in a way you don’t like. Be nice, be graceful, but be firm. And if you’re unsure if something is ok, ask first!

Play safely and consensually

Be clear about what your safer sex practices are, and never stick your finger up someone’s butt (or anywhere else!) without asking first.

Have sensible safer sex practices

Condoms on toys and…you know, everything else that goes in warm places. We provide some condoms, gloves and lube but please bring your own. Make sure you clearly communicate that you are using a condom – don’t wait for the other person to ask. Disregard of this rule is unacceptable.  Oh, and throw your used ones in the bin: no-one needs a squishy surprise.

Respect our space and each other

Being respectful towards each other and our environment means that we can build an atmosphere of trust. So all you fuckers need to R.E.S.P.E.C.T- dig?

Clean up after yourself

Like, really people.

Abide by our online code of conduct

As Kinky Salon London’s online community has grown to the high hundreds of people, we have adopted an online code of conduct based on the guidelines created by our San Francisco mothership. All community members agree to treat each other with as much respect online as they would expect face-to-face.



We know we all look amazing in our outfits, but don’t assume that someone’s wearing short shorts or a collar as an invitation for you to be a space invader. And don't make assumptions or pass comment on peoples' gender, sexual identity or their ability/disability.

Don’t linger unaccompanied in play spaces

Please, please, please, don’t hang out on your own watching people! It makes them feel uncomfortable and it makes you look like a Wanky McJerkoff!!

Don't cruise aggressively (even if they are really cute)

Learn to know the difference between ‘playing hard to get’ and ‘get the fuck outta my face’. If you are given a hint, then take it. There is nothing more unattractive than desperation. By the way, this goes for Facebook and our website, too. If we receive complaints about people abusing these online social spaces to cruise, we may ban you.

rakesprogresscoverimage1999-300x241Don't get too intoxicated

Having a couple of drinks is fine, we are all grown-ups here. But if you get shit-faced we will notice and we will kick you out.

Don't take photographs

We usually have a professional photographer here to capture your fabulous outfit, but we don’t want private stuff going public. So keep your cameras AND your mobile phones stashed for the duration…if you need to make a phone call please do so outside. Photos from the photobooth are private on an opt-out basis, ie if you don't want them to go on our website please email us after the event. Videos taken in the videbooth may end up on the web as one of our compilation clips.

Don't gossip about what goes on here

NEVER mention names, info that might identify individuals, or details of specific activities on any public blogs or message boards. (We don't mind you mentioning KSL in public, just respect the need that some of our guests have for privacy.) What happens at Kinky Salon stays at Kinky Salon.